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author-lapis-lazuli writes: “We are not Perverts”

At some point in the very recent past, there was a twitter conversation between the show’s creators with some disdain over the sudden creation of Maud R34, in which a member of the fandom termed everyone who created such work “Perverts.”

No one corrected him.

After seeing that, I felt the need to say something.

We are not ‘perverts’

We are creators ourselves. We write, we sing, we act, we draw, we create art, we breathe life into characters.. We do these things because they bring joy and happiness into peoples lives. We do them for money, or for the challenge, or just for fun. Because they make people laugh, or cry, or think and look at the world in a whole new light. Because sometimes, they give someone a moment of pleasure in a world all too devoid of such things.

And many of us like ponies.

Why do we like them? We like the way they look and the way they move. We like female characters who are smart, interesting, and complex. We admire them for their courage, and we love them for how we relate to them in so many different ways.

We love to make stories about them struggling and succeeding. We love to make stories about them falling in love with one another. We love to make stories with them having relationships and conflicts and emotions. We love to give them a society with a rich, detailed, holistic world, and then make them live in it.

And some of us like to imagine them experiencing intimacy. We like to treat them like the ‘adult’ people they seem to be, and to wonder about what that portion of their world might be like.

I put my work behind the appropriate age walls. I make it clear that adult activities are going on, right from the outset. I do not make my work available easily to those whom society deems ‘too young’ to see it. I abide by the rules. I keep things honest. I try my best to do right within the rules that society has established.

And so do many other creators like me. We tag our pictures NSFW and our fan fictions “Mature”. We create these things for other adults like us. To create a kind of art that expresses our innermost emotions, be they profound or primal. And yet, we are all too often lumped in with the bad seeds. We are all too often called a lot of very nasty things, simply by virtue of the art we create.

But people forget that that’s what art is about, pushing the limits and going beyond the every day and the ordinary. It’s about taking something we all know about and giving it a new vision. Something like the night sky, or a scene of people standing around a park, or a mother and her child, or a cartoon pony, and we create something of them from the emotions and feelings within us all. So much of art explores that most ancient and deep of human emotions we call sex and intimacy. We have applied those emotions to mythical beings, to gods, to angels, to demons, and to so much more. Yet when we apply it to something new or youthful, we are called ‘perverts.’

I cannot claim to speak for the other creators like me. But I am sick and tired of this fandom treating me like a leper because I dare to be an adult and see these characters in that light. Because I dare to look at the world of MLP and say ‘I can create an amazing story from this world.” Because I dare to think these characters could stand to be treated like people, and not like plaster idols sitting on a shelf.

We are ‘perverts’ because we dare to suggest the stork doesn’t bring babies. We are ‘perverts’ because we dare to suggest that these women might be unconventionally sexual like many real world women are. We are ‘perverts’ because we see love, and we treat it with maturity and respect instead of some kind of puritan ideal.

I wrote this because there are too many people in this fandom and outside of it who judge people like me because we dare to express myself artistically in this way. And frankly, I’m tired of it. I am tired of being the whipping boy for the rest of the fandom to offer up as a sacrifice so that the meanies who don’t like them liking ponies will go away.

We like to say that we oppose bullying, and yet far too many of us are content to play the bully ourselves. Far too many of us are happy to point at someone else and laugh about “How creepy those clop-artists act.” and “What a bunch of neckbeard perverts with their love pillows! They’ll never have girlfriends!” or ‘We like ponies, but we’re not like those FREAKS! Go judge them instead of us!”

So next time you come across an artist who wants to write or draw or sing about a less than chaste love, I hope you take a moment. The next time you want to sneer or gasp in horror at those of us who make more adult oriented works, I want you to stop and think for a second.

We’re humans, just like you. We have desires, and hopes, and dreams, just like you. We’re artists, just like many of you. Most of us are decent people. Most of us do the best we can to abide by the rules. And just like you, some of us are bad apples who like to flaunt the rules, because they can. That’s part of being human too, and so many people seem to forget that.

The only thing you do when you target us with hatred, bile, and insults is you increase the number of us who stop being good, decent people. Because when you treat people like garbage for long enough, they’re going to become exactly the thing you treat them as. Garbage.

My name is Lapis-Lazuli.

And I am not a pervert.

I’m a Brony, an artist, and a person.

Can we get a standing ovation for this post?! It’s freaking perfect.


“Pervert” is often equated with “freak” (as demonstrated by the OP). But “pervert” is a perfectly legitimate term to use to describe us. Something is “perverted” when it is outside the norm, which this clearly is.






The difference between Bisexuality and Pansexuality: A Powerpoint Guide (Slightly updated)

Why the fuck was it needed to put fucking ponies in this man.


They share the color schemes of the pride flags? And I like MLP? 

I personally wonder what pan sexual mean to be for a while

I suppose the main distinction is that pansexuality includes attraction towards people outside the “gender binary” of male and female, where as bisexuality does not.

EDIT: In an updated post, fandomsandfeminism clarifies that bisexuality does include attraction to transgender binary people. But I’m taking an issue with the characterization of “bisexual = attracted to men and women” as “flawed”. To me it seems pretty clear that the two sexes referenced are male and female (especially if we look at sexual attraction from an androphilic/gynephilic standpoint as opposed to heterosexual/homosexual), and, as a result, that bisexuality doesn’t include attraction toward non-binary people.

Relevant Wikipedia articles (with references to sources):

Despite all this, I would think that at least some people who identify as bisexual would be attracted to a non-binary person. It’s just that bisexuality takes a gender binary as a given.




Submitted to me by anon.

This is video is fascinating. It’s discussion on an observational study about common sexual kinks in humans.

Among many other things, it pretty much says exactly what I already thought: Men in general are obsessed with dicks, despite traditional thought. In fact, men are more obsessed with dicks than women are! This includes completely hetero men in general (though they’ll be hard pressed to admit it.)

((It was proven some time ago by cameras that measured where a person’s eyes pointed that men glance at another man’s crotch way, way more often than women look at either gender’s crotches. This of course being during fully clothed conversation.

It’s also proven that men think about the dicks of other men quite a lot. However, I would put forward that there is a significant different between obsessive thought and sexual attraction. Most men who identify as heterosexual cannot masturbate to gay porn even if they try. However, a large cock is vital for straight men to enjoy straight porn. Why is this? It’s fairly obvious… they aren’t obsessing over other men’s dicks in the video, they are vicariously imagining the featured cock to be their own. If that cock is pounding a pussy, great, because that’s what they want to do. If it’s pounding another guy’s ass, it doesn’t work, because that isn’t what they want to do themselves.

So, why think about other guy’s dicks in a non-sexual setting then? Simple. Dominance. Like it or not, the deeper a guy can leave his seed in a woman the more likely impregnation is. It’s a slight difference, but it is a difference. Guys with longer dicks, therefore, are slightly more likely to successfully mate. The ancient monkey part of the human male’s brain, the part most of us (men and women) are unaware of as it goes about it’s monkey life, knows this and is constantly questioning its own order in the dick size hierarchy.

It’s stupid, yes, but it by no means indicates that all guys want to suck a cock (other than their own… pretty sure most guys would if they could). There isn’t some vast conspiracy against being bi or an organized mass denial of homosexual urges. Plenty of women obsess over the breasts of other women. Doesn’t mean they’re bi or lesbian. There’s far more at work here than just sex.))

Oh yeah, you are absolutely right. You put into words what I’ve always thought.

Straight guys are obsessed with dicks. Why else do they make jokes/talk about them all the time? Guys are obsessed with drawing a phallus on every single canvas they can manage. It’s not a sexual obsession, I know. But it’s a obsession anyway.

And I think the reason why guys generally like dickgirls in porn is because of getting the female triggers of curves, but also having a phallus to vicariously live through.

Reblogging for the record. Note that I’m going TL;DW on this video for now.





Here is a general question on sexuality. More rhetorical than anything, but I’m curious as to your thoughts.

Why does our culture seem to universally consider sex and sexuality a shameful or bad thing? I remember a post about mother’s daughter stumbling across MLP porn (Nevermind how. That’s a different topic) and becoming deeply upset about her favorite character’s being naughty. But why is sex so naughty? Isn’t more the fault of our culture for making sex so inherently bad?

When instead our culture could simply educate to children that sex is just something that adults do it’s perfectly healthy. BUT, they’ll have to learn about it later.

I understand that what I’m saying might be slightly controversial is misinterpreted, so I ask that people request me to clarify something before the get upset at what they I may be implying. (Hint: I’m not saying kids + sex is a good thing, and I never well. So please don’t think I’m saying that.)

It boils down to the US Religion of choice, often times sex is treated as bad. Nations older than the USA have come to accept and not repress sexual things, while America is stuck in this rut of wanting to make sex seem as bad.

Sex is treated as taboo and in the 90’s, adult content in kids shows was common as children didn’t understand it, but in the late 90’s something happened when as a nation it became part of the culture to, if you are any branch of christian, make sex bad all over. Parents pulled their kids out of Sex Ed, refusing to talk to their kids about sex, making them feel like it’s bad and shameful. But it’s like putting a top on a soda and shaking it, the pressure builds till something breaks and sometimes people get hurt.

Psychology and science in general has proven a large amount of sexual predators, peeping toms, pedophiles, and serial rapists, had some form of sexual repression or sexual assault in their life that resulted in these unhealthy habits. Parents say they worry about their child being scarred for life, becoming some sexual deviant. But often, it’s parents enforcing their own religious rule on the children or even just wanting to avoid ‘the talk’ as long as possible. And almost always children, when they hit maturity, they think something is wrong with them and it scares them because they think it’s bad or shameful. And the children around them will also become scared and make fun of them often times.

Sex shouldn’t be treated as a bad thing, and yes, kids under sexual maturity should NOT be seeing the content, but when parents turn a blind eye and ear to their kids simple because they don’t want to answer questions or inform the kids, bad things can end up happening.

This is exactly exemplifies what I hate about modern culture shunning the idea of sex completely, especially around minors.

People want to “protect” their kids from seeing anything sexual until they hit 18, at which point they’re expected to suddenly and magically be aware and well-educated on the subject without anyone ever needing to tell them about it.

And obviously, that doesn’t happen.

Exactly, this is the very problem, as a nation kids are repressed and sheltered, kept “safe” and “Protected” from the things they see as bad. The thing is, repressing things often results when under pressure, things tend to break and it all comes out.

Kids are treated like they are eggs, that they can’t take even a little shock to the norm, and this goes on till they turn 18 where they are suddenly adults and are expected to fend for themselves and learn to deal and manage stuff.

I need to outsource my processing of This payments!

My ask page is my primary channel of communication. Here’s the stuff you can send me:

  1. Requests for content and other suggestions for this blog (or other online activity)
  2. Questions about sex and sexuality (including suggestions for discussions)
  3. Questions of general interest to bronies and furries (though I might not be able to answer furry questions)
  4. Any other questions or requests (provided they’re not too personal)
  5. Information/non-questions

Note: This is basically the order of priorities.

You can access this through the short URL /t/whattoask


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